There are so many days when I am lounging around the house, wearing sweatpants and a baggie t-shirt (usually belonging to my 6’8″ husband), my hair wet and frizzy thrown up in a sloppy bun, no makeup on my face, dark circles around my eyes…and my husband will still come home and tell me how beautiful I look.My initial reactions usually sound something like this:
“You are crazy!” OR
“No I’m not!” OR
“You are just biased! You have to say that because you married me.” OR
Then I have to remind myself…he really believes I’m beautiful. I should just be thankful for that! I wake up in the morning sometimes with puffy allergy eyes and crusty slobber dried up on my face, and he still thinks I was beautiful (he tells me all the time). How lucky am I?!The thing is…I think many women have a hard time accepting compliments. I know I do. I have to remind myself to be grateful for compliments and to try to accept them with grace and elegance…with a nice thank you. If someone is telling you that you look great today, or that you are incredibly smart, or that new recipe you made tastes great…then it is true!!! By golly, be proud of it! (Yes, I just said by golly!)
I will admit it…most days I don’t feel beautiful when I’m not wearing my makeup…or if my hair is not fixed. I will also admit that I do not have a positive body image every single day. And some days are…dare I say it…”fat days.” This has to end. Along with having a hard time accepting compliments, I feel like many women also have a problem with their inner dialogue. How many times do you look in the mirror and think, “Man, I look fat in this.” This is a problem that I need to work on…that all women need to work on together. The word “fat” should be eliminated from the dictionary…from all our minds.
I read a wonderful book called Who Calls Me Beautiful by Regina Franklin, and one of my favorite quotes from the book is, “The key to finding my beauty is not in the transformation of my body, but in the transformation of my mind.” (You can find another one of favorite quotes from this book here.) This is so true! Let’s start telling ourselves that we look beautiful…gorgeous…exquisite…EVERYDAY!
So…I was having a couple of these so-called “fat days” earlier this week. (Don’t worry, Mom!) I’ve come to realize that these days mean nothing to me anymore. I know that I am not fat…and I think I’ve come a long way to be able to admit when I am having one these days. However, reading another blogger’s post yesterday inspired me to overcome it. I was intrigued when she asked the question, “What do you love about your body?”
I thought about it a little bit, and there are actually soooo many things that I love about my body. It is able to do SO much!
The best answer I could think of at the time was that I love my back. It is a part of my body that I do not see very much, and honestly it doesn’t get very much attention. I can turn and twist my neck to try to view it in the mirror, but for the most part, I don’t know very much about what my back looks like. I do know that, as I have started lifting weights this year, my back is getting stronger and stronger!
However, I feel as though my back is probably very beautiful.So, I am posing a challenge to myself and to other women out there. Let’s put an end to these “fat days” and fat talk, and let’s work on transforming our minds so that we can believe it when someone calls us beautiful…
…because we are.