So, You’re Telling Me I’m Going To Live ‘Til I’m 103

But those with the most friends outlived those with the least friends by 22 percent.” The Girls From Ames, page 97

I’m not trying to brag, by any means, but I just feel so lucky to be in the position that I am in today. Somehow, by the amazing grace of God, I have been so privileged to gain the friendships of some pretty amazing girls.

I grew up in a household with my mom and sister. These two ladies have been my best friends for my entire life. We have memories stored for decades!

Then there are my girlfriends today. Heather, Casey, Kellie, Megan, Lauren, Candice. I have never felt so close to a group of girls before. I think a big part of that is due to the fact that I am sure of who I am now. I can be me. Completely. While our friendships do not go all the way back to our childhoods like the Girls From Ames’ friendships, there is still great meaning, many memories, and a feeling of longevity. To be truthful, our friendship is only about two or three years old, but most of us seem to feel like we’ve known each other forever. Everything I foresee in my own future, I see happening with my girlfriends.

I remember Megan’s wedding, Lauren’s wedding, Heather’s wedding, and Kellie’s wedding. I remember when Heather asked me to be in her wedding…she had already had her bridesmaids picked out for the past few months, but she felt like she had to add a tenth (yes, ten!) because we had become such good friends in a short amount of time. I remember meeting Casey at Heather’s bachelorette party. We talked to each other like we were already friends. Even other people at the party assumed we had known each other a long time. I remember dancing the night away at Heather’s wedding on the sticky dance floor from all the spilled drinks. I think it’s funny now…Heather told me that right before she met me, her boyfriend (now husband) warned her that I was very quiet and shy. I guess she took it with a grain of salt and the rest is history. I remember how beautiful Lauren looked on her wedding day. Well, I remember how beautiful everyoneย looked on their wedding day (Candice only by the photos.) I remember when Megan told us she was pregnant, and how we all felt so happy for her new and long-awaited pregnancy. I remember kissing Kellie in the bathroom on her wedding day. In only three years time, it’s funny all the fun/crazy/sad/happy memories I can recall.

Heather, Casey, Me, Lauren, Megan

What I find somewhat interesting, is that, according to the studies, it is hardest to maintain friendships between the ages of 25 and 40. We have all “discovered” our friendships between these ages. I think it is because the thing that makes it hard to sustain a friendship during these times, marriage, careers, and children, are what binds us together. Many of us became friends because of our marriages. I never would have met Heather or Lauren or Megan if it weren’t for my husband already being friends with their husbands. Most of our friends are ready to start their own families, so that is making their bonds even tighter (I’m sort of lagging behind on that one…sorry mom, not yet.)

I do have a little bit of a fear that something, somewhere will pull us apart…there is always a fear of losing the people you love. However, I think we all kind of know that maintaining our friendships will be a little bit harder once there are little babies running around our lives or in my case, when nursing school will be consuming my life…but I think because we know this, we will try harder to make it work. The phone calls, e-mails, get-togethers may not be as frequent, but the times together will be more meaningful!

I also find it necessary to speak to the friendships I have made through blogging! I am truly beyond humbled to see that people who I have never even met before take the time come to my blog, read what I have to say, and leave meaningful, beautiful comments. I never thought what I had to say really mattered all that much. I am grateful for you girls who stop by and leave a piece of yourself here. I am truly thankful!

In this chapter, The Things They Remember, there were so many studies talked about on how womens’ friendships are beneficial…longer lives, better health, better marriages, more oxytocin, less stress. I find it interesting that a study from the Harvard Medical School found that isolation, or too much time away from friends, has the same effect as smoking, overeating, or drinking too much. In conclusion, putting all the scientific data together, I do think I will probably live until I’m 103. ๐Ÿ™‚

ang

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5 thoughts on “So, You’re Telling Me I’m Going To Live ‘Til I’m 103

  1. I love this post! I just mentioned my friends a few weeks ago and how lucky I feel to have them all in my life! I still have many friends from my childhood plus new ones from college and working and they each bring something special to my life! ๐Ÿ˜€

    Oh…and I definitely can’t forget about my blogger friends too! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. Wow…this post is awesome! My mom and my sister are my best friends too. But in addition to them, I have a couple of girlfriends who have over the years become like sisters to me. And I can be myself around them, and they understand me – all of me! Such a great feeling, isn’t it! Glad you have such beautiful friendships in your life, and I hope to be 103 as well! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  3. Ang, I also pondered the point that friendships are difficult between 25 and 40, and love that you point out how keeping those tight bonds will probably be more difficult once little ones are running around. This is so true, but I’ve also found that since my two babies have entered my life, I’ve really figured out who my true friends are. Not only is it difficult for people who are new parents to find time for their friends, but I think it’s equally difficult for people who DON’T have kids yet to know where they stand with their “friends-who-have-kids.” After having my first baby, I felt some friends pull away because they felt like maybe I was too busy, or wasn’t interested in the same things, or they just didn’t want to bother me. My true, forever friends, still knew me as me, and weathered through the uncertain “if I call her will I be bugging her?” times. This is really when I realized who my real friends were! They stuck by me when I was hormonal and crazy and forgetful and tearful and stressed and sleep deprived and probably listened to endless stories about how many ounces of milk my kids drank and how many minutes in a row they slept, blah, blah, blah.

    Someone once told me that once I had kids, I wouldn’t be friends with people who didn’t have kids anymore. She literally said, “Your kids’ friends’ parents will be your new friends. That’s just how it is.” I freaked out for 2 seconds, and then I realized my friends without kids and I wouldn’t let that happen. And it hasn’t! If anything, it made some of those friendships stronger because we all had to make a little more effort, and it really showed me how lucky I am to have the kinds of friends who are willing to make that effort.

    I totally related to the one girl (can’t remember her name) who is obsessed with her kids. I think the book said something like all the girls love their kids, but the one girl LOVES her kids. The thing that I love about all my marvelous girlfriends is that they know this, they understand it, and Ang, you are SO right when you say that the get togethers will be so much more meaningful, because they will become less and less frequent. So, just like that girl in the book, I LOVE my kids, but I LOVE my friends too. And as for friendships being difficult between ages 25 and 40… I’ve made my most solid friendships since I entered that age bracket, and can’t even imagine how great those friendships will be in another 10 years when we are all turning FORTY!

    • Amy…sorry I am just now responding!!! I just want you to know that I have enjoyed that past couple of times we’ve hung out because I get to hear all the little stories about your kiddos! Even though I do not have any kids yet, I know that I am not the best about calling my friends back…or even responding to text messages and e-mails, but I do think they understand that that’s just me! You are right, though, the friends that matter the most will be the friends that do stick around.
      I’m glad you are reading with us!!!

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